Adventures In Playing For Both Teams: January 2024 Edition
Notes on being both a "companion" and an "admirer".
So, I’m running a poll to figure out how to scratch certain itches, and in that vein…
https://twitter.com/RealDelilahO/status/1741964041206034492
It's kind of amazing just how many people decide to sell “time and companionship only” without having actually paid for it themselves.
Between December 2018 and July 2023, I've been a client 11 times - most of this was in 2019 when I was high on life after finally tasting tech money.
It's been very very interesting to observe how others do things differently. This was all in the $500-$1000 / 2-4hrs range, so, mostly upper midrange. (I'm doing okay with my day job, but crossing the $1k/appointment line is a weird psychological barrier, both as an escort and as a client.)
Out of 9 escorts booked…
0 / 9 did the fancy lingerie thing
3 / 9 dressed in ways that would encourage you to think of them as sex workers, to put it politely
3 / 9 did the cocktail dress thing
2 / 9 were bad experiences
4 / 9 were amazing experiences
9 / 9 had me as their first solo female client
7 / 9 did full screening
2 / 9 required deposits (the deposit thing has become new as of 2022?)
2 / 9 are still in the industry (I am NOT specifying who)
4 / 9 let me cook for them or take them to dinner (I love taking people to fancy places! It's almost better than being taken to fancy places!)
I absolutely love the practice of meeting for drinks first that one lady had (easy to let people you aren't compatible with go) - except 1) this encourages looky-loos, bargain hunters, and fundamentally unserious people and 2) I have a pretty sober lifestyle and only get into alcohol on special occasions.
I was historically a “three piece lingerie set and cocktail dress” type, and it was a bit shocking to find out that this wasn't normal. (What do you mean, y’all don’t use the lingerie from photo shoots? But isn’t that the point of buying it in the first place? Does it just sit there, worn once? Goodness gracious…)
I developed a habit of always showering with and lathering up clients (apparently this is normal for Asian escorts?) courtesy of working in Florida (where everybody sweats everywhere and the fact that you showered an hour ago is irrelevant) - was surprised to find out that this isn't normal either.
Political tribalism is, unfortunately, a problem. The types that are openly queer and go on and on about how much they want female clients also tend to want you to be very into leftist politics, in ways that they wouldn't expect from male clients. That was a bad session.
What else… Fake bisexuals exist, and to my eternal chagrin, after having been sexually exploited by straight girls finding themselves in college and grad school, I wound up paying for another fake bisexual to find out that she was, in fact, not bisexual, and incapable of definitively sapphic activities. (I'm going to be pissed off for life over this one.)
But, uh, yeah, it has been tremendously instructive in terms of what clients experience. (I can’t imagine you guys having the fake bisexual experience, but, you know, close enough.)
Still trying to figure out the best options for, um, scratching that itch.
I could go play hookup roulette with civilians - it's just, doing so successfully relies on exploiting power imbalances, usually a combination of age, experience, finances, and sexual capital - and then I tend not to get much out of it because they aren't competent enough for me to enjoy being a pillow princess. That sort of thing works for men, I think men experience that as masturbating inside a woman's vagina - but my anatomy isn't conducive to being pleasured by a passive, incompetent, or selfish partner.
Or maybe one of you could volunteer to %$#& the gay out of me - that tends to work, at least for a little while.